It's official ... I'm 40!
And I'm feeling very dignified with my mango margarita at my bday celebrations in Vancouver!
Hint: Toronto celebrations are on February 4th ... are you coming?
Turning 40 was a breeze mostly because I had my mind blowing how the heck am I 40?? moment about six months ago and have since made peace with this reality.
Well, to be fair, ‘make peace with being 40’ isn’t quite accurate. I’m actually quite delighted to be entering my 40’s.
Bring it on!
Where my brain temporarily broke was in thinking about my parents turning 40 and feeling nowhere near mature enough to be 40 myself! Can you relate?
I can say, without a doubt, that entering my 40’s has been met with much Joy, Excitement, and Hope compared to how I slunk into my 30’s.
Yes, I openly bawled in a dance club up in Whistler surrounded by friends when the clock struck midnight and I was OFFICIALLY 30 years old.
But the reason for my tears is probably not what you think. . .
I wasn’t sad about turning 30. I was mourning my 20’s and all the time I’d wasted being unhappy and following everyone else’s rules but my own. I had come face-to-face with the heart wrenching pain of regret...of a life unfulfilled...a young woman undiscovered.
I had come face-to-face with the heart wrenching pain of regret...of a life unfulfilled...a young woman undiscovered.
It was also a powerful motivator to stop living so small and afraid of rocking the boat. I was done with not living MY life, MY way...
I was done with following the rules.
Being a “good girl” was a one way ticket to misery and living a lie.
I was done with being afraid to ask for what I want.
I’m allowed to have preferences, desires, needs, and dreams...and so are you!
I was done waiting for someone else to make my dreams come true.
We all only get this one life and NO ONE is going to hand you your dreams on a silver platter. My new favourite saying become, If it’s going to be it’s up to me! Burn that in your mind.
Mostly, I was done with not being myself
Because it was slowly killing me and leaving me so unbelievably unhappy I was choking.
Getting frustrated, angry, and feeling squeezed by the teensy, tiny boxes we put ourselves in is ESSENTIAL to making big, important changes in our lives.
Gawddayum...this blog sounds depressing AF!
But I’ll tell ya, feeling pain is a good thing. I’m going to let you in on a secret: getting frustrated, angry, and feeling squeezed by the teensy, tiny boxes we put ourselves in is ESSENTIAL to making big, important changes in our lives.
So, am I sad about turning 40?
I did a lot of work to get here and I'm really proud of what I've built over the past decade:
40, I ain't mad at ya!
Are you living your life and expressing yourself in bold, authentic, and aligned ways? Are you being true to yourself?
Friend, it's gut check time: are you living your life and expressing yourself in bold, authentic, and aligned ways? Are you being true to yourself?
As I officially enter my 40’s I have the confidence, joy, and peace that comes from spending the last decade getting reacquainted with ME...the good, the bad, the ugly and the LIMITLESS.
Bring on the 40’s ... I’ve got so much life in me to live!
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